By the time you read this, I will be on my way to Miami for a girls’ weekend with 4 friends who are scattered across the country. Back in our single days, we used to live in the same city and get together weekly. Now, we can barely manage it annually. While I am going into this trip with a fair bit of guilt (see this post and this post), I am hoping that I’ll come back from it feeling reconnected and refreshed.
It’s been a stressful several months for our family. Work and life pressures, both kids in new schools, increasing demands on our time and energy… the list goes on and on. I love my life, but my WORD, is it stressful at times! After talking it over with my very understanding, supportive, and generally awesome husband, we decided that what would help me most is having an extended break. Not a movie or lunch with a friend here and there, but a WHOLE WEEKEND free from kid duty, housework, and freelance work.
I took a quiz recently on Oprah.com titled “The Fried Quiz.” I scored a 21: “Burnout Alert.” My results came with the instructions to set aside an hour a day for myself and to take at least one weekend day off a week. How hard could that be?
Turns out, very. I failed miserably on my first try. On Saturday I spent a mere 90 min. at my computer, but on Sunday I did writing and editing work for 3 hours, made and delivered food to a sick friend, ran errands, did several loads of laundry, vacuumed, changed everybody’s sheets, did the dishes and baths. I finished the day not with a sense of accomplishment, but exhausted and with a sore back, nowhere near refreshed for the week ahead. I just can’t seem to let myself take a break when there’s always so much to DO.
And I’m not alone. A recent Working Mother poll showed that 48% of working mothers and 42% of SAHMs say they feel guilty about not taking care of themselves.
So this weekend will be interesting. I haven’t been away from my kids since I went to a blog conference last February. I am sure all 3 of my boys will manage just fine without me. I am looking forward to lounging on the beach and catching up with my friends. Some of us have kids, some don’t, some work, and some don’t. Everybody has super-busy, interesting lives, so there’s bound to be lots to talk about. Even the emails leading up to this trip have been entertaining. We’ve covered: flat-irons, footwear, bikini waxes, nail polish, the Miami club scene, and the Kardashians.
My biggest concern is actually whether or not I’ll be able to stay up past 10pm. But something tells me that even if I can’t, the trip will be worthwhile. Have a great weekend, everybody!
LAUGH O’ THE DAY: My 5yo was peppering me with queries like what are belly buttons for and why do we have to dress up for church? I said to him, “Wow, Miles, you sure are full of good questions today.” 2.5yo Riley pipes up: “And I’m full of Goldfish!”